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THE FORGOTTEN - Example Of An African Middle-Class

Images from Africa in the Western media show mostly terrible misery, war, hunger and poverty. According to UN figures more than ninety percent of all Africans live neither in war nor crisis-areas and the economic growth of some African countries is among the largest in the world. 

Kenya‘s economic growth is annually between five and six percent which is three times higher than the growth in Germany. This is above all to the credit of the middle class, which is probably the most crucial potential for the development of the country. Nevertheless you hardly notice anything about the lives of African middle class people. Hahn + Hartung traveled to the capital city of Kenya, Nairobi to meet and create a portray of people belonging to the middle class.

A reminder to the people who keep embarrassing themselves by asking Africa-themed blogs how they are using the internet.

Posted on December 19, 2012  ·  with 11764 notes · via / source
Filed under: #isms  #this is important  #'how do you use the internet' wow  
Do not tolerate, from yourself or others, jokes that make fun of anyone for anything that is harmful or out of their control. Ever. Period. Full stop. Not racist jokes, not sexist jokes, not homophobic or transphobic jokes, not jokes that make fun of people who have physical or mental disabilities or illnesses. Practice this now, and practice it deliberately. You should have a sense of humour, but this is NOT a sense of humour. Don’t do it. Ever. It’s never okay.
The dean of my law school who is a fucking BAMF (via american-idolatry)
Posted on October 31, 2012  ·  with 7651 notes · via
Filed under: #hey this is pretty good advice  #isms  #comedy  #this is not a sense of humour!  
Melissa Harris-Perry, rape survivor, sends an open letter to Richard Mourdock

andmodern:

Everyone needs to watch this video, left, right, center, apathetic—it doesn’t matter. This is the very essence of rape illiteracy that is still being fought in 2012.

Share with everyone. You never know who needs these words the most.

Posted on October 30, 2012  ·  with 3492 notes · via / source
Filed under: #melissa harris perry  #tw: rape  #isms  #hero  #she's just  #hero.  
Let’s Talk About First World Problems…

uhuh-she-said:

Is your latte too hot? Mine was this morning. I was at the bustling Oasis shopping center in Kampala, Uganda, and I took one sip and then spilt it all over me. You know who else has these problems? The local Ugandans that frequent this shop, and make up the majority of it’s clientele. 

As Africa stabilizes across the continent, Westerners forget that average daily problems in Europe or North America are not that far off from that of the African middle class. Our smart phones sometimes freeze up. That’s annoying. The DJ is playing shit, so we leave the club. 

Which is not to say that there aren’t problems. It’s not to pretend that all of Kampala or Nairobi or Kigali is a paradise of African wealth where the biggest problem is a warm beer. There is real, stark, damaging poverty here. But there is similar poverty in Clichy Sous Bois in Paris. There is similar poverty in Brooklyn. In Chicago. The outskirts of Amsterdam. 

The idea that an African can’t have similar issues to those living in London is a mistake. It is a mistake rooted in the idea that Europe is somehow superior or has vast amounts of wealth. In reality, the East African GDP has been steadily on the rise for years, whereas the economic outlook in both North America and Europe have been steadily declining. Angola just gave a loan to their former colonialists, Portugal. Our cities now have thumping clubs, eclectic cuisine and most of these places are owned and invested in by locals. 

Stop feeling bad for Africa. It doesn’t need your pity. 

If you want to do something to help those who survive on very little, try investing in it. Instead of buying Tom’s shoes which give away free shoes (and therefore remove jobs from hardworking Africans making shoes) invest in Sole Rebels. A woman-owned Ethiopian based shoe company that pays their workers a livable wage. 

Tonight I am going with Ugandan friends and some expats to watch the Poland vs. England match, live on DSTV at my local pub. I will eat grilled tilapia and drink some beer. This is not an extraordinary life here. This is the new Kampala average. This continent is far from perfect. Uganda is far from perfect. But it is getting there, and if you think for one minute Africans do not experience massages, cupcake shops, foam on our coffee, car trouble, banking woes and hangovers after too much fun, you are dead wrong.

It’s not all flies on babies. Welcome to the real Africa. 


Posted on October 20, 2012  ·  with 11078 notes
Filed under: #isms  #this is important  #world view  #i mean  #think about what you're saying a bit  
Consent

girlebony:

I believe I’ve seen a comprehensive description of consent once before. Figured I’d contribute as it’s a subject that bears repeating.

Consent is:

  • Non-coercive: If you’re cojoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone to engage in a sexual act with you, you are breaking consent. If you asked 16 times and got 15 No’s and 1 Yes, you still did not adequately obtain consent. Also, you’re a weak individual.
  • Not fixed: What I mean by this is you shouldn’t take for granted that after asking once for consent that you now have consent forever. It’s not like landing a gig as a Supreme Court judge. You don’t have consent for life. It should be continuously negotiated.
  • Dynamic: Related to the above note, consent for one act does not necessitate consent for all acts. Consent is not an EZ Pass. It should be re-addressed constantly for different acts.
  • Conscious: Yeah, I want to believe I don’t have to explain this one. Bad enough I had to list it. But ok, yes, an inebriated/asleep/passed out or otherwise not fully coherent person cannot consent. There, you can’t say no one ever told you.
  • Unambiguous/Explicit: Assume all of the following to mean “no.” — “Maybe,” “I’m not sure,” “Not yet,” “Kinda,” “Wait a minute,” …I could go on.
  • Not contingent upon sexual interest nor sexual arousal: We know. Blue balls are a motherfucker. Still no excuse. Neither your NOR the expressed/implied interest of any potential partners is an invitation to any act. Also, neither your nor the (assumed) arousal of anyone you might want to have sex with is an invitation. Yes, someone might be aroused and still not want to fuck. Crazy times. I know.
  • Not compensatory: Yeah, that dinner and a movie were nice. Still not an invitation to fuck. And if you thought it was, you’re a world class asshole.
  • Not something that requires a qualifier: No one needs to explain why they are not granting you consent. No is enough.

Posted on October 14, 2012  ·  with 9171 notes
Filed under: #isms  #this is important  

commanderspock:

youngbadmanbrown

“These incidents may appear small, banal and trivial, but we’re beginning to find they assail the mental health of recipients.” 

-Sue et. al , 2007


If white people would even admit any of the stuff on this list was racist my life would be easier. 

http://www.olc.edu/~jolson/socialwork/OnlineLibrary/microaggression%20article.pdf

http://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/02/microaggression.aspx

Posted on August 20, 2012  ·  with 9222 notes · via / source
Filed under: #:|  #race  #isms  #the thing about microaggressions is that even if you 'didn't mean it that way'  #it just builds and builds and it's  #the worst  

mangotea:

afternoonsnoozebutton:

Study shows watching TV boosts self esteem of White male children, decreases self esteem of Black male and all female children. (x)

Boys making the transition from elementary to middle school are probably exposed to superhero cartoons, Jordan said, adding, ” ‘Superman,’ ‘Batman,’ X-Men.’ The lead characters of these shows tend to be male.”

But Jordan added, “In recent years, creators of children’s programming have worked hard to improve diversity and include strong female characters.”

For white boys, “regardless of what show you’re watching … things in life are pretty good for you,” Martins, an assistant professor of telecommunications at Indiana University Bloomington, said in a statement. “(White males) tend to be in positions of power; you have prestigious occupations, high education, glamorous houses, a beautiful wife, with very little portrayals of how hard you worked to get there.”

 #study shows existing on this planet boosts self esteem of white male children/decreases self esteem of black male and all female children

Posted on July 20, 2012  ·  with 6619 notes · via / source
Filed under: #totally surprising things  #representation  #privilege  #:|  #isms  
Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.
The art of “no.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via fuckingbruges)
Posted on July 3, 2012  ·  with 26873 notes · via / source
Filed under: #NO.  #:D  #sexism  #women talk  #ugh men  #isms  
The best way to dehumanize someone while claiming you’re not is to believe you are just the same. You erase their experiences and perspective, their struggles and obstacles, their unique way of having to deal with those things in a world that also erases them. With the words, ‘but humans are humans’ or the bullshit dramatics of ‘we all bleed red’ normal people can simply pretend that if we all did things the way they did, then everything would work out okay. But, yes, we all bleed red but you don’t treat a papercut the same way you treat a gash, you don’t treat an infected wound the same way you treat one that isn’t, you don’t treat a wound to the leg the same way you treat a wound to the gut. You are not acknowledging someone’s personhood when you ignore the very things that make their lives different than yours, and when you refuse to understand that their circumstances have given them their own perspective that is just as valid as yours. More valid in fact – their perspective about their experiences that you haven’t been through is far more valid than anything you could ever think about it.
The danger of worldviews (Speaking when the world sleeps)
Posted on June 29, 2012  ·  with 13834 notes · via / source
Filed under: #isms  #this is important  #eloquence  #when you realise 'who cares? we are all human' means 'who cares? i believe you know and have experienced exactly as i have'  #unsettling shit  
The only reason white people think being called a ‘white person’ is racist, or harmful or wrong is because they are used to the privilege of just being seen as a ‘person’ without their race or color being an issue for them. You see, when you call them ‘white,’ suddenly, they are not just a person, but now they have a color. Suddenly, they are no better than a PoC. And that scares the shit out of them.
Omar Sankofa (via sonofbaldwin)
Posted on June 24, 2012  ·  with 7039 notes · via / source
Filed under: #isms  #racism  #race  #privilege  #still so frustrated about that 'can we stop describing things as 'white' please' article from a couple of months back?  #frustrated/totally uncomfortable  #was that a thing that was necessary (no.)  #:/